Your man can be your biggest hater:
What do you call a man who pursues an organically beautiful, expressive, money making woman only to then try and shape her into who he wants her to be?
Sassy.
It’s one thing when a bitch hating on you, but a totally other when you’re sleeping next to the enemy.
Damn.
Have you ever had a partner make snarky remarks on your appearance, career, emotions, goals, body, skills, THOUGHTS, relationships, or anything personal to you?
Imagine praying to God that your enemies reveal themselves and disappear from your life, next thing you know your man gone.
It hurts when you show up confident in yourself and your (male) partner just can’t seem to take it.
Any man who makes underhanded compliments or comments to his own lady is not real and very much so a hater.
i’m telling you right now,
THAT MF IS NOT REAL.
God the niggas you put on earth to protect us is down here hating on our je ne sais quoi, bad.
Tia Mowry, Wendy Williams, Whitney Houston, Tina Turner, Mary J. Blige, and Keke Palmer (& many more)
I am so sorry to these ladies.
An insecure man is a woman’s worst nightmare.
So run girl and fast!
We have all witnessed women being taken advantage of when they’re the star/breadwinner/ or the confident one in the relationship.
Unfortunately, a lot of secure women attract insecure men who seek to “humble” them for their own confidence and self-gain.
It’s like the same reason they love you is the same reason they hate you.
Puzzling.
It’s something about men who are attracted to a woman’s success or confidence (the abundance proximity).
Clinging onto success or an image they will never see for themselves in this lifetime.
Some men are jealous of the attention and lifestyle women receive. With the attention women get, life can sometimes be easier, leaving insecure men infuriated.
men wanting to live a soft life is ABSOLUTELY disgusting.
Tia, what are you doing literally picking men up from the bus stop?
Wendy Williams what were you thinking making that man your manager?
Self-discovering, confident, and career oriented women have to start leaving these type of men where they met them.
In the dust.
‘Dating down’ is not exclusive to monetary gains but also the level of a person’s mindset, discipline, nurturing capabilities, motivation, character and role.
Bring something to the table, we are begging.
Where are these men mentally and emotionally? Are y’all on the same frequency?
It's never a good idea for a woman to date down.
The only time I want to see a woman looking down:
A woman must know when she encounters an insecure man.
The Red Flags are always there:
He’s quick to anger or plays the stoic role
He’s sometimes jealous of you (you trigger his ego)
He’s very critical of your opinions/appearance
He plays victim
He gaslights and plays mind games
Frugal with the funds (a man who doesn’t give money probably won’t give much of anything)
You can’t seem to please him
Honorary mention: If his dick is little he was born insecure.
But anyway,
Most insecure men project how they feel about themselves on the women they are dating.
Insecure men look for ways to assert dominance and it always looks like misogyny or hyper-masculinity.
Leading with things like telling a woman what she can wear, who she can befriend, and the she can places go.
It reeks of insecurity.
Understanding the difference between boundaries and rules is beyond important when dating. Boundaries are expectations we put in place for ourselves, while rules seek to change or restrict another person.
Are they “trying to fix their inner issues with a bad bitch?
It’s something you must ask yourself when you are dating men.
An insecure man and a woman who knows herself is always a potion for disaster.
The truth is, society and women give men too much power and ownership when they rarely deserve it. (esp if they aren’t the breadwinner)
Not being the breadwinner while also being an insecure bitch of a man is a bit confusing and audacious.
It’s disheartening to watch a man be his girl’s biggest fan to her biggest hater in the name of misogyny, power, and control.
Ike never got the success level that Tina achieved.
Mary J. Blige is paying alimony til this day.
Keke’s BD twitter fingers couldn’t handle her in being confident in that sexy dress.
We need more Russel Wilsons and less of this batch.
The next time a man makes a comment on your hobbies, goals, beauty, or anything else…just know he hates himself.
It’s no secret that most men have a fragile ego. But it’s not our job to soothe them nor humble ourselves.
A man who values you, will not feel threatened by you. He will feel blessed to have such a raw woman by his side.
He will not only acknowledge your intellect and gifts, but value your time and presence.
Most times ladies, you are out of his league.
So stay there.
And lastly,
…. Who Really doing the bending?
I love y’all.
